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Sexual Abuse: How to Prevent It
By Julia Rosien
Preventing child molestation starts long before you leave your child at baseball practice or swimming lessons. Children are more likely to be molested by someone they know than by a stranger. Teach them to feel resolute in their ability to advocate for themselves when you aren't there to protect them.
The Unthinkable Happens
Like many parents, Anna Cameron and her husband allow their children to participate in extracurricular activities on their own. Their three boys play soccer, take swimming lessons and belong to Scouts. Tragedy hit their small community when a local Scout leader was charged with sexual misconduct involving minors. When the courts released the name of the offender, Cameron couldn't believe it was her older son's leader.
After talking to their children and counselors, the Camerons felt secure in the knowledge that they had protected their son. "We spent a week in shock, dancing around questions with our son, but in the end he hadn't been touched," Anna says. "The measures we take every day in our house paid off." The Camerons were more than just lucky; they were prepared.
Thursday, November 19, 2009
My Opinion About Molestation
I personally feel that teens don't like to talk about them being molested because it's scary, embarrassing, makes you feel guilty, and makes you feel like every thing is your fault. Mostly girls are molested by a family member which may want them to keep it a secret more. Molestation makes them depressed, quiet, and makes them have a low self esteem. They may be getting threatened about telling someone about the situation, that's mainly why they keep it a secret.
I chose to research about this topic because not many people pay attention to it, they don't understand what some teenage girls/ boys go through, most people mainly focus on prostitution or rape, but what about the kids who are being molested right now. To me its crazy how much and many people get molested everyday, every minute, and every second, and more than half percent of those parents are not paying attention. I will always keep this suck in my head EVERY 26 MIN. A TEENAGE GIRL GETS MOLESTED, it just hurts to know that someone like me is going through this alone with no one to talk to. SO PARENTS PLEASE PAY ATTENTION TO YOUR KIDS' BEHAVIOR AND CERTAIN CHANGES THAT THEY DON'T TALK ABOUT.
I chose to research about this topic because not many people pay attention to it, they don't understand what some teenage girls/ boys go through, most people mainly focus on prostitution or rape, but what about the kids who are being molested right now. To me its crazy how much and many people get molested everyday, every minute, and every second, and more than half percent of those parents are not paying attention. I will always keep this suck in my head EVERY 26 MIN. A TEENAGE GIRL GETS MOLESTED, it just hurts to know that someone like me is going through this alone with no one to talk to. SO PARENTS PLEASE PAY ATTENTION TO YOUR KIDS' BEHAVIOR AND CERTAIN CHANGES THAT THEY DON'T TALK ABOUT.
Sunday, November 15, 2009
Reporting Molestation
-Summary:
The article on reporting molestation said that usually kids are embarrassed or feel uncomfortable by going to the police or their parents for help. If your kids are acting differently you just need to be honest with them and talk to them, make it sound like you are really there for them, that way they'll open up more. You can also try to talk to one of their friends and ask them to ask your child about whats going on.
-Reflection:
I think that this article can also be good for parents to be able to talk to their kids about being molested and whats right and wrong. They ways that they provided on how you can report molestation were very thoughtful and probably helpful. The one about talking to the child's friend was very good because most kids only talk to their friends about something bad about whats going on and the friend could tell the parent, then the abuse could easily be stopped.
-Evidence:
"Mostly women would want to forget about incident or feel too embarrassed to pursue the issue with the police. But the police can do nothing to curb this social evil unless the women report or lodge an FIR with the police. A woman who has the courage to complain when her dignity has been challenged would be a beacon of hope for other women and help punish the disgusting perverts. The society would appreciate these courageous women who pursue the matter with the police as it acts as a severe deterrent for future occurrences. If Women remain scared now they will remain scared forever."
Another article from www.molestation.in
The article on reporting molestation said that usually kids are embarrassed or feel uncomfortable by going to the police or their parents for help. If your kids are acting differently you just need to be honest with them and talk to them, make it sound like you are really there for them, that way they'll open up more. You can also try to talk to one of their friends and ask them to ask your child about whats going on.
-Reflection:
I think that this article can also be good for parents to be able to talk to their kids about being molested and whats right and wrong. They ways that they provided on how you can report molestation were very thoughtful and probably helpful. The one about talking to the child's friend was very good because most kids only talk to their friends about something bad about whats going on and the friend could tell the parent, then the abuse could easily be stopped.
-Evidence:
"Mostly women would want to forget about incident or feel too embarrassed to pursue the issue with the police. But the police can do nothing to curb this social evil unless the women report or lodge an FIR with the police. A woman who has the courage to complain when her dignity has been challenged would be a beacon of hope for other women and help punish the disgusting perverts. The society would appreciate these courageous women who pursue the matter with the police as it acts as a severe deterrent for future occurrences. If Women remain scared now they will remain scared forever."
Another article from www.molestation.in
Laws against Molestation
-Summary:
Laws for molestation aren't very strict. You only get up to one year in jail or just 30 months of probation. For two years you have to be very physical with the victim and threaten them not to tell anyone about whats going.
-Reflection:
I don't think that the sentence for two years for physically harming the child is fair because that is really hard for the child to process that in the long run. I think that the offender should have a way longer sentence in jail for that because doing that will physically and emotionally scare the child for life. By harming and orally touching the child is only one year, I don't agree with that law either because its just wrong how much they can do and get such little time.
-Evidence:
"In cases where the accused molests or insults the modesty of a woman by way of obscene acts or by means of words, gesture, or acts that are intended to insult the modesty and dignity of a woman, he shall be punished under the following sections."
An article from www.molestation.in
Laws for molestation aren't very strict. You only get up to one year in jail or just 30 months of probation. For two years you have to be very physical with the victim and threaten them not to tell anyone about whats going.
-Reflection:
I don't think that the sentence for two years for physically harming the child is fair because that is really hard for the child to process that in the long run. I think that the offender should have a way longer sentence in jail for that because doing that will physically and emotionally scare the child for life. By harming and orally touching the child is only one year, I don't agree with that law either because its just wrong how much they can do and get such little time.
-Evidence:
"In cases where the accused molests or insults the modesty of a woman by way of obscene acts or by means of words, gesture, or acts that are intended to insult the modesty and dignity of a woman, he shall be punished under the following sections."
An article from www.molestation.in
Facts about Molestation
-Summary:
When reading the articles facts about molestation it said that India is home to most child/teen molestation cases in the world. Also that only 53% children being molested actually told their their parents what was going on. In India every 26 min. a child is molested, a woman is raped, and a woman is killed.
-Reflection:
Reading this article was very shocking to me because its real. To me its crazy how many kids/teens and women get molested, reaped, or killed in such little time everyday. It saddened me that only 53% of the children in the world say something about that person molesting them. It hurts to know that the other percentage of those kids who didn't say anything are still going through it.
-Evidence:
"India is home to the largest number of sexual abused children in the World.
It is estimated that one of every three girls and one of every five boys before the age of 18 have been sexually molested.
A nationwide survey conducted by the Ministry of Women and Child development threw light on the amount of Child Abuse that children suffer in our country.
53% of the children surveyed in the survey reported Sexual Abuse.
Sexual abuse of the children is highest at work followed by those at Institutional care. "
An article from www.molestation.in
When reading the articles facts about molestation it said that India is home to most child/teen molestation cases in the world. Also that only 53% children being molested actually told their their parents what was going on. In India every 26 min. a child is molested, a woman is raped, and a woman is killed.
-Reflection:
Reading this article was very shocking to me because its real. To me its crazy how many kids/teens and women get molested, reaped, or killed in such little time everyday. It saddened me that only 53% of the children in the world say something about that person molesting them. It hurts to know that the other percentage of those kids who didn't say anything are still going through it.
-Evidence:
"India is home to the largest number of sexual abused children in the World.
It is estimated that one of every three girls and one of every five boys before the age of 18 have been sexually molested.
A nationwide survey conducted by the Ministry of Women and Child development threw light on the amount of Child Abuse that children suffer in our country.
53% of the children surveyed in the survey reported Sexual Abuse.
Sexual abuse of the children is highest at work followed by those at Institutional care. "
An article from www.molestation.in
Emotional Symptoms of the Abuse
-Summary:
The article that I read about emotional symptoms of sexual abuse was saying that the child will portray as depressed, have low self-esteem, and/or excessive guilt.
-Reflection:
I think that this article is very helpful to show the parents what their child will act like if this was happening to them. Parents please pay close attention to your kids and how different they act or may be acting. Be sure to ask them about why they are acting a certain way. Don't be to forward with them because they may feel that you are attacking them and just throwing the topic at them. They may feel scared to say anything because of the abusers words or actions.
-Evidence:
"Emotional Symptoms· Regression to younger developmental stage· Lack of affect · Withdrawal/depression· Anxiety/irritability/fear· Phobias· Excessive guilt· Feelings of helplessness· Low self-esteem· Obsessive ideas· Self-hate· Hyper alertness· Dissociation."
-Also from Childtrauma.org
The article that I read about emotional symptoms of sexual abuse was saying that the child will portray as depressed, have low self-esteem, and/or excessive guilt.
-Reflection:
I think that this article is very helpful to show the parents what their child will act like if this was happening to them. Parents please pay close attention to your kids and how different they act or may be acting. Be sure to ask them about why they are acting a certain way. Don't be to forward with them because they may feel that you are attacking them and just throwing the topic at them. They may feel scared to say anything because of the abusers words or actions.
-Evidence:
"Emotional Symptoms· Regression to younger developmental stage· Lack of affect · Withdrawal/depression· Anxiety/irritability/fear· Phobias· Excessive guilt· Feelings of helplessness· Low self-esteem· Obsessive ideas· Self-hate· Hyper alertness· Dissociation."
-Also from Childtrauma.org
Monday, November 9, 2009
Tips for Parents on Child Molestation
-Summary:
In the article that I read about tips for parents on molestation it said that you should have an open relationship with your child and always make them feel comfortable in any kind of talk that they have. Let them know that its ok and they can talk to you about anything that is going on in their lives or at home.
-Reflection:
I think that the article I read was great because it basically gave parents steps for them asking their child about molestation. By talking to them on their level and making them want to talk to you. By letting your child know that you are there to protect them it makes them want to be more aware that you are there for them and that you can make the person stop doing what they are doing to your child.
-Evidence:
"Teach your children that it’s your job to protect them, and that you can protect them only if they tell you when something is wrong. Explain that people who hurt children may tell the children to keep it a secret. They may tell the children their parents will not believe them. They might threaten to hurt the parents if the child shares the secret. Teach your children that adults who say that are wrong, and that your children can share anything with you.
Make sure your children understand that if someone does make them feel uncomfortable or confused, you will not blame them. Reassure your children that sexual abuse is never the fault of the children."
From: Preventchildabuseny.org
In the article that I read about tips for parents on molestation it said that you should have an open relationship with your child and always make them feel comfortable in any kind of talk that they have. Let them know that its ok and they can talk to you about anything that is going on in their lives or at home.
-Reflection:
I think that the article I read was great because it basically gave parents steps for them asking their child about molestation. By talking to them on their level and making them want to talk to you. By letting your child know that you are there to protect them it makes them want to be more aware that you are there for them and that you can make the person stop doing what they are doing to your child.
-Evidence:
"Teach your children that it’s your job to protect them, and that you can protect them only if they tell you when something is wrong. Explain that people who hurt children may tell the children to keep it a secret. They may tell the children their parents will not believe them. They might threaten to hurt the parents if the child shares the secret. Teach your children that adults who say that are wrong, and that your children can share anything with you.
Make sure your children understand that if someone does make them feel uncomfortable or confused, you will not blame them. Reassure your children that sexual abuse is never the fault of the children."
From: Preventchildabuseny.org
Reducing Child/Teen Molestation
-Summary:
The article that I read was telling me/us about how we can reduce the child and teen molestation going on in the world. It said that we need to ask our kids about their day and just talk to them and let them know that you are there for them. Children May often feel left out or not useful so they tend to keep every thing to themselves, so if you see something different about them, ask them about. Sometimes when someone is molesting them they might think that they are there for them because of whats going on in school or just their self esteem level.
The article that I read was telling me/us about how we can reduce the child and teen molestation going on in the world. It said that we need to ask our kids about their day and just talk to them and let them know that you are there for them. Children May often feel left out or not useful so they tend to keep every thing to themselves, so if you see something different about them, ask them about. Sometimes when someone is molesting them they might think that they are there for them because of whats going on in school or just their self esteem level.
-Reflection:
I think that this article would be very helpful for parents who notice their child/children acting different. Instead of the parent coming straight forward and asking them if someone is touching them in the wrong places, they have this information to back them up, its sort of like being questions or a lead in. Most kids probably don't feel comfortable with telling their parents because of what the person my have said or done to make them not tell their parents.
-Evidence:
" It is rare for a child to speak directly about sexual abuse. Evidence of physical trauma to the genitals or mouth, genital or rectal bleeding, sexually transmitted disease, pregnancy, unusual and offensive odors, and complaints of pain or discomfort of the genital area can all be indicators. An aware medical practitioner may notice these symptoms during a physical examination. However, in most cases of sexual abuse, there are no physical indicators of the crime. It is rare to actually have positive medical findings upon medical examination, although such findings can provide powerful corroboration of a child’s account of sexual abuse. Most often, children who are victims of sexual abuse exhibit emotional or behavioral characteristics that may indicate distress."
-From Childtrauma.org
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